Valentine’s Day. Such a great celebration of love. A year’s sum of love, celebrated in just one little day. Oh, Romantic love. Eons and eons it has tortured many, but has also brought joy to broken hearts. But there is a greater love in our lives which we tend to put aside, and essentially never really designate a date to celebrate all of its grand gestures to us. This is the type of love we also tend to minimize and sometimes sadly it is a love we may never discover. The love for our own selves.
We are so eager to find someone that will surround us with love and give us that little spark in our hearts. We have submerged ourselves into this idea that we need to be loved and cherished by someone else that we forget to love ourselves. And this is the most important love you will ever meet.
People will say, you cannot love someone else unless you love yourself. I do not believe in such philosophy. You can love someone else plenty without loving yourself. But what changes is the way you behave within that relationship. For if you do not love yourself, you will not respect yourself and you will not voice you needs. A relationship is like a play in which you want to be an active member and not just part of the audience. Love yourself first and foremost to ensure you are an actor in your own play.
The only person that will give you exactly what you want is yourself. You know what you want, you know what you need, you know what will make you happy and what will not. Romantic love will embellish your life, but you do not need romantic love to bloom. Let’s learn to love what is within first. Be kind to your inner core, understanding to your needs, give your wants a little joy, be forgiving to the mistakes you have made, be loving towards the image you see in the mirror. The blue valentine is your true valentine. Be content with what is within first because that is what is of essence on Valentine’s Day.
But let’s voice the truth…It is not easy to love yourself. There will be days you will hate yourself, but when you do remember your inner core is counting on you for some love.
What is you greatest love?